How to deal with divorce when you don’t want it

Being blindsided by a divorce request when you are still invested in saving your marriage can feel devastating. Even if the relationship was strained, you may be shattered if divorce was not your choice. When your spouse declares the marriage over against your wishes, it unleashes complex emotions – grief, anger, resentment, hopelessness.

You may resist the finality of divorce and be tempted to keep fighting to preserve the marriage. However, once a spouse has clearly stated their intent to end things, pushing to stay together typically backfires. Forging ahead through an unwanted divorce requires emotional fortitude and active self-care. With support, you can navigate this immense loss with grace and eventually create a fulfilling new life chapter.